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  • Dallin H. Oaks, "Dating versus Hanging Out", Ensign, June 2006, p.10
Contrasts dating with "hanging out".
Extols the virtue of dating and warns against exclusively "hanging out".
  • Dallin H. Oaks, General Conference, April 2007, Sunday Morning Session
Best way to avoid a bad marriage is by "enquiring well" before marriage. Therefore "hanging out" is not sufficient.
Discusses some of the ways we may sabotage our dating experiences.
"Avoid steady dating with a young man prior to the time of his mission call."
"Remember, young women, the importance of proper dating. President Kimball gave some wise counsel on this subject:"

"'Clearly, right marriage begins with right dating. … Therefore, this warning comes with great emphasis. Do not take the chance of dating nonmembers, or members who are untrained and faithless. A girl may say, "Oh, I do not intend to marry this person. It is just a 'fun' date." But one cannot afford to take a chance on falling in love with someone who may never accept the gospel' (The Miracle of Forgiveness, pp. 241–42)."

"Our Heavenly Father wants you to date young men who are faithful members of the Church, who will be worthy to take you to the temple and be married the Lord’s way. There will be a new spirit in Zion when the young women will say to their boyfriends, 'If you cannot get a temple recommend, then I am not about to tie my life to you, even for mortality!' And the young returned missionary will say to his girlfriend, 'I am sorry, but as much as I love you, I will not marry out of the holy temple.'"
"So many of our own young women sacrifice their God-given endowment of femininity, deep spirituality, and a caring interest in others on the altar of popular, worldly opinion. Young men, let such young women know that you will not seek an eternal companion from those that are overcome by worldly trends."
Teens who don't date were found to be less depressed and had "significantly higher teacher ratings of social skills and leadership."